I am a fiercely competent worker and I like that about my self. It is a part of my identity. And an important part of it. One that I am not willing to give up on. Not until I really have to. I am a good driver for projects and plans and an enabler for my teams and it gives me happiness to be that, in addition to being a wife, a daughter, a sister and now a Mom. I can contribute in more ways than one to this world. And may be for now I am just contributing to an organization’s financial success. But who knows someday this momentum will take me longer and further.
But none of this means that I love you less or my work is more important to me. It isn’t. And it will never be. But it helps me be who I am and hence we both will be much happier if Mom can go back to work. If life has some other plans for us, we will of course find a new path, but for now, this is where things are at.
Think of it this way, for me to make you happy I have to be happy. And for me to be happy I have to take care of myself. My work is how I take care of myself. It is how I stimulate my mind to do creative things. My mind needs that stimulation or it tends to fall into the the trap of “I am miserable”. You don’t want a mom who feels miserable about herself. She will only teach you to be the same.
Additionally, if I quit I won’t be able to provide for you the way I would if Dad and I are both earning. We will need more resources as you grow up and to provide for that I need to get back to work. I am not going to say that I want to give all that my parents could not give me. That won’t be true. Because my parents gave me a lot more time than Dad and I will be able to give you. They lived in simpler times and made simpler choices. We my dear, live in a complex world. And it is only going to become more and more complex as you grow up.